How often do you say negative things to yourself? Just for fun, try keeping track tomorrow. Maybe you are aware of this bad habit, but most people will be surprised at how often they put themselves down.

Negative self-talk can become a dangerous spiral, affecting how we carry ourselves, our confidence levels, and our overall mindset. It’s time to break the cycle and start speaking kindly to ourselves.

Here’s why positive self-talk matters:

Ilena | Photography by Marcus Harris

You Deserve It

You deserve to be treated with kindness, patience, and respect - period. You are a beautiful spirit who is worthy of love and compassion. A lot of us are pretty hard on ourselves. We're our own worst critics, and we're always quick to point out our flaws and shortcomings. Now, imagine being that critical of a friend. Would you ever dream of speaking to them how you talk to yourself? Of course not! So why do we think it’s okay to talk to ourselves that way? It’s important to remember that we deserve to be treated with the same care and patience we extend to others.

Ilena | Photography by Marcus Harris

You'll Attract Goodness

It's funny how life works, but it is true that what we focus on expands. So, if we want to attract more positivity into our lives, it starts with filling our heads with positive thoughts. When you consciously surround yourself with positive things, you'll start seeing evidence of that in the form of great relationships, new opportunities, and plenty of blessings. Not only that, but you'll also find it easier to brush off the negative things when your mindset shifts from scarcity to abundance. Positive self-talk also often shows up in your body language and how you carry yourself. You stand taller, make eye contact, and walk with purpose.

When constantly putting yourself down, it's tough to feel confident about anything - your appearance, abilities, or worth. But speaking kindly to yourself can help boost your confidence and give you the courage to seize opportunities and go after what you desire.

Ilena | Photography by Marcus Harris

It Improves Your Mindset

The things we say to ourselves can have a significant impact on our mental health. If you're constantly telling yourself negative things or that you'll never achieve your goals, guess what? You probably won't. But if you fill your head with positive self-talk, you're much more likely to stay motivated and focused on achieving your dreams. When we start speaking kindly to ourselves, we can change our mindset from defeat to possibility and hope. Suddenly, we see all the things we can achieve instead of everything holding us back.

Ilena | Photography by Marcus Harris

We all need a little more self-love in our lives. And one small but powerful way to show ourselves some love is by speaking kindly to ourselves. Remember that you deserve kindness the next time you find yourself being too hard or negative. Remember that positive self-talk can also help to attract good things into your life and reframe your entire mindset – improving your overall mental health. Let’s break the cycle of negative self-talk and begin speaking kindly to ourselves today. Trust me - your future self will thank you for it!

Written by Chelsea Dixon

Chelsea Dixon is the Founding Editor of Love U Magazine. She's also a freelance writer and content marketer in her spare time. To learn more about her vision for the magazine, read From the Editor's Desk on our About Page.

Photography by Marcus Harris

Award-winning international traveling photographer/videographer. Scout for talent agencies, and manager for actors, models, and musicians. Owner of ReBrand LLC based in Virginia Beach, Virginia.

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